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Finding a Fun Job...

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Dear Camille

I recently finished college and am so confused.  I keep getting offers to work these bogus sounding jobs on a commission basis, etc. but can't decide what I want to do.  That's not what I slaved away in school for.  Nothing seems fun...what would you do?

- Confused UCSD Grad


Dear Confused,

I can still remember wanting so badly to finally finish that second semester of my senior year in college.  I was ready to blow that place and get out in the the real world.  Yep...this is one of those situations where you have to be careful what you wish for.  I realized really quickly that the fun part was being in school...and while I loved the work I found after graduation, the responsibility part wasn't all it was cracked up to be. 


The best thing to do is start trying different types of work and make a list of your "likes" and "dislikes" in each position.   You will start seeing patterns and by eliminating what you DON'T want to do, what you DO want to do will finally emerge. Whew...are you with me? 


Did you know that Adecco and Manpower staffing agencies are some of the largest employers in the world?  Yep...there are other people...and not all you trying to figure out what kind of work they want to do.  Try temping and start eliminating!


Many temporary jobs turn in to full time positions...and not necessarily in that same role.  You get to see what the company is REALLY like from the inside.  Oh yeah, and while you are there, build a reputation for having a positive attitude and being willing to do any kind of job.  I promise you it will pay off.





1.      Getting laid off from a job you like due to no fault of your own.  Really - it's a 21st century rite of passage.


2.      Getting stopped for a (minor, very minor) traffic violation and attending traffic school - you'll be much more aware of bending the rules when you have "points" on your DMV record.


3.      Vote - it doesn't matter who you vote for as long as you know WHY you are voting for them.


4.      Take care of a pet - even if it is just a friend's pet - for at least a week.  You'll get to experience the unconditional love of a living thing and won't have to obligate yourself to the long term commitment if it turns out you hate it.


5.      Go on a trip to a country where you do not speak the language and don't hang out with the other Americans.


6.      Work in a customer service/wait staff /retail job - you'll never be rude to those service industry employees again.


7.      Baby-sit kids for a whole weekend - again...they don't have to be YOURS, just see what it "feels like" to have another human being depending on you...


8.      Volunteer for an entire day - pick any cause and go with the intent of paying it forward - when it's not all about you it feels great afterward - don't just take my word for it.


9.      Assemble furniture from Ikea or any other big box company - it can try the patience of even the most Zen-like person - and teaches you to at least read directions in life when they are available - following them is another subject.


10.  Get dumped by someone you are crazy about - ask for pain?  Yeah, pretty much.  It teaches you a lot about being a better friend, not taking others for granted and that the heart is a very resilient body part.




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Dear Camille,

My coworker is always stealing my ideas and then acts like they are his while at the same time being two-faced enough to pretend he is my friend.  Advice?


Robbed in San Diego



Dear Robbed,

Uh oh, somebody's Mom didn't teach them how to play nice in the sandbox.  What really gets on my last nerve is how often this type of co-worker seems to come out smelling like a rose while you are standing there wondering "hey, what happened?"


Lesson #1 - except in very rare cases, these people DO know exactly what they are doing.  They are basically spotlight stealers who don't have any original ideas of their own.  The first time this sort of behavior rears its ugly head, you have to go back to the person and let them know that you're on to them...and so is everyone else.  The next time, you have to keep your ideas to yourself. 


And Lesson #2 - branch out and find some other friends...this so-called "friendship" is going nowhere fast.


Wondering how to separate  yourself from the pack and build a reptation for excellence?  Read on...


1. Update your attitude toward long-term jobs.

The average position in the U.S. lasts from 2-5 years with the current norm being about 2.5 years. Accept that finding new work will be the one job you'll have for life, so get good at it! Keep an ear to the ground so you'll always know what's going on in the industry, with the competition and associated industries - instead of just inside your cubicle.


2. Put together a plan.

The law of averages shows a layoff will happen to all of us, so getting ready in advance will make it much easier to recover when it occurs. Know what yourPlus, you'll have a leg-up on the competition.


3. Communicate

Many clients I work with say their manager doesn't even know what they do.  Don't settle for that!  Keep your manager updated on your activities so they understand the value you contribute. Keep your communications regular, but not excessive, and make them accomplishment and results-oriented.


4. Step up to stretch assignments.

Never lay back and wait for someone to notice you are capable of doing more.  Take a risk and ask for an assignment outside of your comfort zone so you can learn new skills and showcase your talents.


5. Play nice with others.

Almost every company operates in a team environment.  Don't step on your teammates hands as they follow you up the ladder. If you take an "I'm in it to win it" attitude at the expense of your team members, you will be ousted in the first round of layoffs, and more importantly, won't have your workmates as connections when you - and they - move on to bigger and better things.


6. Build alliances across your organization.

Make it your business to know people in different departments and divisions.  If you are working on a project with multiple departments and communicating via email or phone, try for a face-to-face meeting or ask them to meet for a coffee break to build rapport.


7. Never eat lunch alone.

It's the mantra of the savvy professional.  Sitting in your cubicle eating lunch while you work is a huge mistake.  Be the one to organize lunches with other employees at your company (or outside the company for that matter) and build alliances. The connections you make will serve you for years.


8. Prove your personal integrity.

In nearly every workplace, there are questionable practices. I'm betting you know when the boundaries of honesty are being stretched. Your best move is to always protect your integrity. It takes a career to build a good reputation, and one less-than-honest incident to destroy it.


9. Dress up - even when you don't have to. 

In a world of tee shirts, flip flops and wrinkled jeans, the person who does business casual the right way will stand out. Look like you are serious about your image.  An ironed shirt with a collar, pants with a belt or a skits and shined shoes will take you a v-e-r-y long way - no matter what your role is.


10. Choose positivity.  People who are always stressed, pessimistic, sarcastic or depressed are no fun to be around.  Be the one they miss when you're not around.  You may not have an outgoing personality, but your attitude is 100% your choice.

Serve My Country???

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Reluctant Recruit???

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Dear Queen Camille,

I'm turning18 in two months and I really want to join the Marines, but to be honest, I'm a little scared. Even though both of my parents are supportive, I'm still intimidated by the thought of Basic Training. What do you think I should do? On the fence in San Diego.

Dear Reluctant Recruit,

I've gotta start by congratulating you on being aware of and then admitting to your fear!  Especially if you are also brave enough and value being of service to others enough to consider becoming a U.S. Marine (or joining ANY branch of the military)!

Let's break this down...F.E.A.R. (False Expectations Appearing Real) is nothing more than being hesitant because you don't know what's ahead.  When we are kids, we just step into matter what, because we don't know about the potential consequences.  (Lookie at grab a hot log off the fire and you learn pretty quickly not to do that again.) 

 Joining the military and signing up to put your life on the line and be part of something bigger than yourself - all to protect others... SHOULD be scary.  If you didn't feel that, I'd think you probably weren't mature enough and weren't taking the decision seriously enough. 

About Basic Training...obviously I have nevah been close to anything like it in my multitude of jobs...but it is meant to help you suceed.  It is meant to break old bad habits, get you in shape and think like a have everyone else's back.  Of course it is extremely challenging both mentally and physically...but what worth doing isn't? 

Let's look at the worst case absolutely hate being a Marine...and regret you signed up.  You do your tour and come out.....smarter, with lifelong values, experiences, comrads and accomplishments!  You also earn lots of thanks from your fellow Americans in the form of tuition breaks, discounted home loan programs, extra "points" when applying for government jobs, etc. 

Oh, and having experience in the military is a great introduction to the "real world" of work if you decide not to stay in long term.  I swear I can pick 'em outta any group...women and men who have served our country.  They seem to stand a bit taller, listen more respectfully and problem solve more logically.  Don't even get me started on their teamwork skills. 

Oh and if you are a Marine, you get to say that cool "hoo-rah" thing the rest of your life too!



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Personal Brand Building

When you think realistically about YOU, what do you have to offer to a potential employer?  What are your traits and values and skills?  What are you known for?  What motivates you? Your brand evolves over the duration of your it exactly as you want it to be! Loads of self-assessments and areas to examine on a regular basis in your custom -made world of work.


Resume and Marketing Collateral

A resume and other communication pieces are a permanent core of any professional's toolkit.  Hey, you need be ready to talk to anyone, anywhere, any time.  Create pieces uniquely tailored to your personal brand.


Networking to Your Goals

You probably noticed by now that social networking is king in the professional world.  It is also the power of your professional core.  It is all about going in with the intent to support others...not about what you can "get" from others.  This session gives an in-depth plan on where, how and with whom to network.



Interviewing is sometimes a pressure situation and we look back afterward to have brilliant thoughts as to how you could'a answered the questions.  After this session, you will feel comfortable in interviews whether over the phone, impromptu or planned in advance.  Know what questions to ask and prepare for, close the sale and follow-up.


Negotiating at Work

In today's workforce, the talent (that's YOU) needs to know the value of their skills and who is buying them.  Negotiating for exactly what you want in a work situation (within reason, now) is expected in today's transactional work environment.  Learn what is OK to ask and what you need to steer clear of.


Managing Across the Generations

We have four distinct generations in today's workforce and that means lots of potential disconnects when it comes to work ethic, expectations, values, communication styles, etc.  This session gives a terrific overview that you can use to strengthen your leadership, team and personal communication skills.


Eight Keys to Career Success

Lots of P&P clients say that they want to take charge of their careers and just plain don't know where/how to start.  This session will provide you with a tool to assess the critical points of a balanced, proactive career.  You will learn which areas need attention and build a plan from this information.



Those who constantly learn new skills will be those who survive the continuious changes at work.  For more information or to register, email us at or give us a call at 619.298.1965. 


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